Here is what happened in court: restraining order, I was awarded “emergency” primary custody, and the judge scolded Frannie’s dad. I was also presented with his rebuttal to my claims. After reading it, I guess I should be glad he never listened to me or remembered anything correctly now. All those gorgeous wool sweaters he shrunk in the dryer were worth it, I guess. Fuck, it was expensive, but I’m glad I hired a lawyer. I am going back to court June 8th to get primary custody for the duration of the divorce. My lawyer offered him very generous visitation, which he rejected, so we went in front of a judge who gave him much less. It was the hardest day I think I ever had; I cried before I went in. This is probably about all I should say.
Yarr.
Good things.
“Damn right, it’s better than yours!”
Whoop! =8)
xS
Hmm…I would love to tell you it gets easier from here, but it might not. Good deal on the lawyer – you always think the other side will be reasonable, but they aren’t (at least not in my case).
You will get through it and life will get much better once it’s all over!
\_/ – have a drink on me!
Thinking of ya.
hang in there baby.
(picture kitten hanging from tree limb)
we all got yr back.
xo.
Take care, and know you have friends that are here to support you…including me!
*hug*
Bummer, I came her for yucks and you went all serious on me. Do you need this guy beat up?
Ed: Nah, I got the proper paperwork in order now. No one needs to get beat up. Thanks, though.
Yucks: 2003 was pretty good for yucks. Hit the archives.
(picture kitten hanging from tree limb)
God, that is a completely fucking disturbing image. Who the fuck would find that comforting? Jesus.
Oh.
You mean, like, hanging from a tree limb by it’s claws. Ah. Ahem. Well. That’s, uh, different. Nevermind then.
Congratulations, SJ.
Maybe things will get better now. Sometimes having a JUDGE tell them they’re being an assmitten gets through where feedback from ‘she who destroyed their life’ does not.
Sounds like you have a good lawyer too, which really makes a difference.
Alright SJ. Yes, I hope it gets easier. Hope he sees his assmittenry and reforms and if not, your lawyer makes it not matter so much.
I love your analysis of that song and hang my head in shame for never listening to lyrics. Or even music with lyrics half the time.
Are you sure it’s a good idea to post a picture of you strangling your daughter while you’re, you know, in the middle of trying to get custody of her?
(apologies if that’s not as funny as it seemed to me when I thought of it. my beer tastes like sweaty nutsack, which apparently means it’s unusually strong. either that, or my cold medicine has a “do not mix with alcohol” thing on it somewhere that I just didn’t notice, and now my brain’s wilting like a flower in an oven.)
Tra la laaa. I know this whole thing was hard, but I hope that it makes things in your life a whole lot better. Maybe Frenchies Daddy will realize that he needs to be a lot more mature to be in her life.
Hey SJ,
I just finished that whole mess in Dec. My heart goes out to you. It is not going to be fun. My ex still plays with my kids heads. Keep as much distance between the two of you as you can. Just take care of you and Frenchie. That’s all that will matter in the end.
I guess it’s good to be prepared when you’re going to court. An object lesson for the Soon-to-be-Ex Mr. Husband.
Joshua: Lordy! I think I ruptured something.
Rzan: Yes, I was hoping that hearing it from someone else would help, too. That wasn’t my purpose, of course, but it’s nice.
Everyone: Thank you for your well wishes.
Awwwww. Been there. Your brief account (“This is probably all I should say.”) brings back some sad memories.
I repeat: awwwwww. And add: poop.
EP
it’s not an easy time, but chin up, put those leather boots on and good luck.
it sounds like you deserve custody of your daughter anyway. not an easy time …. a hug from afar :)
Good luck with everything. :( And what an absolutely gorgeous picture. What lovely ladies you two are.
You’re doing the right thing- hope it goes well for you.