Merry Meddlemas

Since Xmas is out-of-control, and I am out-of-control (as usual), I have decided to make this a week all about player hating, and HATE in general. Around this time of year, I always think of the old Doug Allen comic, Steven. Steven was this little kid who would run around yelling, “I HATE!” I can really relate to that. I see this blog as a respite from Xmas cheer, so today I will continue to player-hate on my sister-in-law.

When I was about twenty, my sister-in-law decided she was going to get married to her long-time beau, Mountain Man. Mountain Man is a nice fellow, a big fan of skiing and large dogs and the outdoors in general. He met The Sister while they were in college, and though The Sister was raised in the big city like Mr. Husband, she was soon converted to Mountain Man’s unholy outdoorsy ways.

SO, after a five-year engagement, they were finally set to be married. She was going to have her storybook Barbie Princess wedding on some old docked ferry boat that could be rented out for parties. She was going to wear a white dress, though she and Mountain Man were in their late twenties and had been living together for at least four years. Fine. (Am I a better person because I eloped and we paid for our own damn wedding? Probably, but that’s another story.)

The Sister and I never got along well (we had a vicious argument during a small family vacation in New Mexico about how booty/non-booty public schools are the previous spring, and I am always suspicious of someone who can so whole-heartedly defend public schools) so the stage was set for future tension.

Then we get the wedding “itinerary” in the mail a couple of weeks before the glorious event. Mr. Husband is slated to play “The Wedding March” on his saxophone and to provide ambient music beforehand, while the guests are milling around. Oh good, he says. He is happy to do this for her. Then I see my name…I am set to read some crappy poem. Talk about sending a message: You are as irrelevant as a monk’s penis.

This immediately causes my inner pirate to emerge.


How dare she write me into the itinerary without asking me first? I don’t like her well enough to be in her stupid wedding! I was fuming, like the giant idiot I am.
She called a week later to arrange some other stuff with Mr. Husband and she got me first. She is a very emotional person, but I could not allow this infraction to stand.

“Oh, hi,” I said, as nonchalantly as possible. “About your wedding, listen, I just don’t feel comfortable participating in it.” It was diplomatic (for me), but true. I was actually pretty proud of myself.

“WHAT?” she shrieked, after what I said had sunk in a bit. “WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO RUIN MY WEDDING? Let me talk to my brother.” I could hear her sobbing on the phone as Mr. Husband tried to calm her down.

We flew up to Seattle a week or so later, and needless to say there was a lot of tension in the pre-wedding get-togethers. I do not appear in any of the group wedding pictures, but after the ceremony the photographer followed me around taking pictures (because I was the only one there who did not look like a J. Crew ad) until I got too shitfaced and I think he figured it would be unseemly to continue.

Glamourously, and in typical younger-SJ fashion, I drank so many glasses of wine I ended up vomiting over the side of the gently-swaying ferry boat. I am told (I don’t remember) that the Wedding Princess and Mountain Man were swept off after the reception in a little speedboat, and Mr. Husband was allowed to use their SUV. Which I also vomited in.

I slept in the car until two in the morning, in our hotel’s garage. Mr. Husband sat with me, since I am a giant sack of potatoes and could not be carried up to our room.

The Sister, Mountain Man, and the Ugliest Baby are driving in from Idaho tonight for Xmas. During their last visit in August, she stirred the pot and convinced Mr. Husband he was unhappy and should change his life around. That he had to do things for himself.

Hello? Family=sacrifices. Which she should know about, since she has one, as well as a crappy job teaching public school that keeps her away on weekends, preparing material and grading papers, etc. Freud called, he wants his theory about projecting back.

So Mr. Husband quits his taxi job and loses his cherry schedule, which means I have to arrange for my friend to watch little Frannie twice a week while I’m in school. And he starts school himself which is a good thing, but then OH SURPRISE, discovers that he doesn’t have any more time than he did before, and that things are actually more stressful now.

I can’t wait to see his sister and tell her how beautifully her plans for her brother went. If she tries to meddle again, I’m going to talk to her in a way that her grade school-teaching ass can understand: KEEP YOUR EYES ON YOUR OWN GODDAMN PAPER. DO NOT DISTURB YOUR NEIGHBOR.

Can’t wait to see her.

9 thoughts on “Merry Meddlemas

  1. DAGGUMIT WHY MUST I BE RIGHT ALL THE TIME??? What a curse it is to be able to see the future. Oh wait, I think it’s called common sense.

  2. Now, now. Try to play nice.

    Ugh. Our own families can be hard enough. Acquired familes come without the genetic predisposition to civility, obligation and guilt. Oh who am I kidding. None of that in my own family either.

    PS: Love the stories.

  3. Your stories crack me up! Very honest and funny! In the wee hours of this morning I read your blog about the things we should cover on first dates and had to continue the list on my own blog – I gave you props though for the idea!

  4. My girlfriend and I have divergent wedding plans. We’ve been together about two years, so it’s okay to think about getting married. And we seem to have similar ideas about what the marriage should be, so that’s all good. But our goals for the wedding are totally different. I think we should keep our vows down to, “Hey, we’re married!” The wedding song should be, “No Children” by the Mountain Goats, and the expressed purpose of the wedding should be for our friends to get drunk and laid. In fact, I want that to be the official toast. Everybody smile for the camera and say, “Drunk and laid!” Lots of food. Loud music. Lots and lots of booze. Large fire. Ambulances standing by. I was raised by bikers. That’s what a wedding is SUPPOSED to be like.
    Her plan involves lace and a harp. I’d rather fall down a mineshaft into a burning cesspit.

  5. Ah, Miss SJ. I feel the pain, I really do. Alas, I have a disability which prevents me from vomiting when drunk, otherwise all my problems would be solved the SJ

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